Creating An Abundant Lifestyle

Author: Derek Smiley

Many people believe that an abundant lifestyle is about having money and everything material. Well if this is what you think, you may be in for a let down.



Of course we would all rather be rich and miserable than poor and miserable, but to have wealth and happiness is achievable.



When your partner comes home after a day at work, greet him/her at the door and say hello. Ask how his/her day went; keep asking it will become a good habit after 21 days.



When your partner leaves for work in the morning, say Goodbye and I love you or Have a good day, and make sure you do it with an abundant heart, remembering you want an abundant lifestyle in the future. When you ask your partner a question, make eye contact and listen to the answer.



When your partner faces a challenge at work during the day, ask how it went when you get home. Remember though that because of our natures, it is likely the male will want to shrink into his cave for an hour or so, before discussing such issues.



During your evening meal together, avoid the temptation to watch television or read the paper or mail. Look at your partner and have a conversation.



If you want to make plans that affect how your partner will be spending time, check with him/her first and make sure it is convenient.



When you disagree with something your partner says, pay attention to your response. Do you express your opinion without putting him/her down? You can express your opinion assertively rather than aggressively.



For example, you can say, "I have another opinion. I think we should wait until spring to have the walls painted," rather than, "That's silly! We should wait until spring."



Pay attention to how much of your side of the conversation is asking questions versus making statements. If you tend to be the dominant one, ask more questions. When you ask your partner a question, make eye contact and listen to the answer.



Ask open-ended questions to encourage your partner to open up and talk. Open-ended questions begin like this: What was it like when. Tell me about. What do you think of.



Have you become passive with your partner because that is the easiest way to avoid conflict? Over time, this is not a good idea. You will inevitably begin to build up feelings of resentment because you are stifling your feelings, thoughts, and opinions.



If you think you are choosing passive behaviour too often, think about discussing it with your partner and asking him/her to help you be more assertive.



Researchers have found that people whose marriages last the longest have learned to separate from their families of origin (their own parents and siblings) and have appropriate, healthy boundaries.



They value and honor their own privacy and separateness as a couple. This means they have regular, appropriate contact with their extended family, but that it is not excessive or stifling. How do you compare?



Check your communication with your partner and beware of using you messages. These are statements that begin with the word you. For example: "You should call me from the office and tell me when you will be home".

You messages are damaging because they make the other person feel bad or disrespected.



If you want to demonstrate to your partner that you respect him or her, try speaking with I messages instead. When you start your statement with I, you are taking responsibility for the statement.



It is less blameful and less negative than the you message. You can use this formula: a. Your feelings b. Describe the behaviour c. Effect on you.



This is how an I message sounds: "When I heard that you had planned a weekend away, I was confused about why you had not asked me first, so I could be sure to get the time off."



It takes some practice and you have to stop and think about what you are going to say, but your relationship deserves to be handled with care.



Make a list of your partner's positive qualities. Share them and tell him/her why you think each is true. Ask your partner to do the same for you. Respect each other's private space. Over time, many couples let this slide.



As the years pass, many couples begin to feel like they are living in the same house, but have parallel lives. Their paths cross in fewer places.



What is the trend in your relationship and what do you want to do about it today? We hope this articles helps you with your quest for an abundant lifestyle

About the Author:

DrS has been using abundant lifestyle help for years. His motto is: "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him/her drink it. Unless you put salt in the oats." Salt is your why (or if you don't know why,then what you don't want out of life) plus education and action, to make it happen. More information on finding the best abundant lifestyle help can be found at http://www.abundantly.eu

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Discover What to Do With Your Life.

Author: Doug Allan Dammeier

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I have found my 'purpose' in life and in this article I would like to briefly talk more about how you can find yours. So that's my question to you..."What Do You Want To Do With Your Life?"





Enoch Tan believes our purpose in life is determined by 5 points: 1.) It must be something that expresses who and what you are on the 'inside.' 2.) It must be something you truly enjoy doing. 3.) It must be something that gives you 'vision.' 4.) It must be something that you would gladly accept as your 'lifestyle.' 5.) It must be something that you truly believe in.





Your 'calling' in life is what ties your spiritual being together with your physical being. You become 'connected.'





It is also: ...something you have always been interested in. ...something you feel not only in your mind, but in your gut. ...something you find meaningful. It completes you.





A Calling is is a person's highest purpose. Everyone has a purpose in life and everyone has been given the passion and talent to fulfill it.





What people really want is to find work that they are passionate about. When fully engaged in your passions you have no sense of time. You're not watching the clock to see when you can stop because you never want to stop. Working at what you are passionate about is not work...it's your lifestyle your passions created.





When people work at what they love their productivity and creativeness explode. They find talents and abilities they never knew they possessed. They grow tremendously inside and outside. And they are so engrossed in their passion they become experts and contribute tremendous value to others and to the world.





Now I understand perfectly that not everyone can just up and quit their present job/work and follow their passions for the rest of their lives. That's not 'real world.'





But there is no reason you can't spend time to discover and become clear about what your passions are and begin to work toward living them on a full time basis. You can do this outside of your present 'work' on a part time basis.





If you're in high school or college and you're not sure if you are studying the subjects that will lead you to working at your passions work to identify what you want to do with the rest of your life. Look ahead 5 years, 10 years, even 20 years, and think of what would be the ideal lifestyle for you to be living. Picture yourself in your future working at what you love to do. Take subjects that may help you attain the goal of working at your passions in your future.





If you're not in some type of school, you're older, and just working at a job that doesn't excite you, or you may even hate, you are robbing yourself of the abundant and joyful life you were created and put on earth to live. Don't quit your job, but begin to study your passions part time and become an expert. Begin offering your expertise to others on a part time basis and income will begin to flow. Build and grow this passion over time until it replaces the work you don't like doing. It doesn't matter how long it takes because it will be worth it for the rest of your life. At this point you are no longer working, you are living the lifestyle of your dreams.





Sure it takes time. Anything we learn and pursue takes time and effort. But when it's something you absolutely love to do time has no bearing. Before you know it you will have attained your goals and will be setting new, larger goals that you never imagined would be possible for you.





A Calling/Passion may not be something you realize early in life. Most people have to 'grow into' their calling by making mistakes, through trial and error, and by eventually becoming fed up and realizing that "There has to more to life."





That's why I am here. My mission is make as many young people as I can aware of the fact they can earn a great living and at the same time live a lifesytle of total joy and happiness working at their passions. The same holds true for people of any age. I didn't realize and follow my true passions until I was over 50 years old. I wish someone would have taught me about this when I was in my teens or twenties. And this is what I want to do for others.





But no matter, because I am now following my passions and earning a living doing what I love to do. And anyone can do the same. As a matter of fact, it's what you were created to do!





Please understand that living an abundant and happy life is your birthright. It is what we all deserve. Did you know that it's a lot easier to succeed than to fail? Most people think just the opposite.





You have to work hard to fail. For failure you need stress, tension, anxiety, depression, worry, and fear. You employ a tremendous amount of energy in those things. When you worry about failure and keep it in your thoughts you naturally attract it to you. When you focus on the lack in your life you attract more lack.





All you have to do to change this is re-arrange your 'mindset.' When you recognize the thoughts or feelings attached to failure or fear entering your mind picture yourself grabbing them with both hands forcefully and throwing them out of your mind and out of your life. Toss them in the trash. They cannot stay in your mind if you CHOOSE to kick them out.





Immediately replace them with thoughts of your desires and feelings of success. 'Flip a switch' in your mind and focus on thoughts and feelings of being successful, happy, and abundant.





When you focus your energy and attention away from fear and failure to being abundant and successful you find ways to 'flow' more easily through life. You attract people, events, circumstances, and situations into your life to grow this success. One thing leads to another and your life begins to change to one of joy and happiness.





Personally, I'm a Christian and believe in God. Most people believe in something whether they call it the 'Higher Power,' the 'Universal Mind,' the 'Source,' or whatever. I don't preach religion. My point is, our innermost desires and passions are divinely inspired.





When I feel passionate and excited about something it's God's (use whatever you believe in) way of telling me this is a purpose I should follow up on. My passions are God's way of leading me. All positive thoughts, feelings, ideas and inspirations I get are a personal message from God. He communicates to me this way. He leads me this way.





By choosing to follow your heart and passions you are fulfilling the unique talent and purpose that has been placed in you. Following your Calling puts you on a path where God's blessings for you begin pouring into your life on a non-stop basis. As long as you are moving in the direction of your life's purpose the Universe will bless you with all the things you need to in order to fulfill all your dreams.





You will find many priceless and precious things appearing like magic along the path of a life following your passions. Work to identify and clarify your passions and then take the time to pursue them.





...CoachDoug

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Choose a Lifestyle That Makes you Happy

Author: Dennis Harting

It is always interesting to watch how society attempts to make people conform. Social conditioning is one of the most powerful motivators we encounter. The fact that most of it occurs without our knowledge is what makes it so effective. People will fight to defend their beliefs without even being aware of where those ideas came from. Unfortunately, the majority of us are nothing more than “products of our environment”. We rarely become something that we consciously chose. Rather, those who we spent the most time with influenced us into believing what we do.





When it comes to relationships and sex, society is clear on what it's belief is. Heterosexual marriage is the accepted model. This is the best way to maintain order while ensuring the reproduction of the “village”. People who enter this state end up raising a family which carries the population forward. Also, married couples provide an overall stability to the community. They tend to settle down in an area while establishing some roots. The focus often shifts away from individual fulfillment to that of the family. It is a wonderful concept and appropriate in most situations.





However, there are a large number of people who are not designed for this lifestyle. Yet society fails to deliver the message that it is alright for one to find a lifestyle that is suitable to him or her. Many believe that if someone is not of this mold, then there must be something wrong. Yet, there are many different lifestyles for people to choose from. Of course, there is the choice of staying single. For a lot of people, this is the ideal way to live life. Some people are homosexual or bisexual. Their preference strays a bit from the norm. Then there are those who prefer the “swinging” lifestyle. Monogamy is not something that works for them. These are just a few of the choices people can make when deciding what they want in life.





Part of living a rich life is making the choices that make you happy. Too many people allow others to make the decisions for them and wonder why they are not fulfilled. You are the only one who has to live your life. It is imperative that you select those things that coincide with your true nature.





Attempting to live a lifestyle that is not true to us will result in failure. We have heard of the man who leaves his wife for another man. He comes “out of the closet”. Afterwards, people wonder why he would do such a thing. The answer is that he simply was trying to live a lifestyle that did not fit him. Certainly he may not have known his sexual preference when he got married. Nevertheless, the pressures of our culture deter the investigation into what fits this individual. He was trained from a young age that he should get married and raise a family. That is the conditioning of society.





Naturally, this is not to imply that there is anything wrong with marriage or family. The point is that basically they are not for everyone. However, the judgments of others is another powerful weapon. People who fail to obey the cultural norm are belittled. For example, what is the opinion of people who engage in group sex. The majority of society looks down upon those people. They call them all kinds of names. Individuals who claim to be “open-minded” judge the daylights out of these people. Since they do not fit into the proper model, weapons are brought out in an attempt to make them conform. Naturally, violence is outlawed in the era so other tactics are utilized. The biggest is to let people know they “do not fit in”. This carries considerable pressure. We all want to be a part of something. Our humanness dictates this. Man (in the species sense) is a social animal. We are designed to interact with other people.





When seeking personal happiness, it is important that we choose a sexual/romantic situation that accommodates us. We need to give ourselves the freedom to make the proper choice. If being married and living in a monogamous relationship works for you, follow that path. However, if something else is more to your nature, it is best to follow that. A word of caution: it is often difficult to be true to your decision. There will be a number of people who will attempt to influence you. This will be done with the claim that they want you to be happy. Of course, they operate under the presumption that they know what is best for you. You are the only one who can make this decision.





Here's is a common example. I once worked with a guy who knew that he was cut out for the swinger lifestyle. Throughout his dating career, he was in numerous long-term, monogamous relationships. He told me that he was not happy in those situations even though the women were wonderful. They were ideal candidates for married life. Unfortunately for them, he was not. After some research, he realized that another lifestyle fit him better. He consciously chose to pursue it. Until he met that “special” someone. She was ideal in all manners except that she was not interested in swinging. As you can guess, issues arose. We talked on a number of different occasions about this. In the end, he had to let her go. Neither of them would enjoy happiness engaging in the other's lifestyle. Ultimately he did find someone who was pursuing the same interests as him. Today, they are very happy together.





In summary, be mindful of the choices you make with your life. Understand there was a lot of conditioning that influenced you. Society has a way of training us to behave in certain ways. Resist the temptation to go against your core. If another path sits better with you, follow it. Your happiness rests upon the decisions that you make. Even though those closest to you will have their opinions and judgments, they do not live your life. It is your responsibility to make live a rich and full life.

About the Author:

Dennis Harting is the Head Coach at Your Rich Life. He is an acclaimed speaker, trainer, and author. His books include the international best sellers Your Easiest Million and The Ultimate Procrastination Handbook. His programs and more information can be found at http://www.yourrichlifeinc.com.

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